Did having a baby "save" your relationship?
An author debates can a baby save a relationship, and better yet, should thought having a child together would strengthen their relationship. Advice for new parents on coping with changing relationships, both as a couple and with friends and family, plus what to do if you're a victim of domestic abuse. One of the biggest factors leading to tension and issues in relationships after childbirth is tiredness. Lack of sleep can have a huge impact on day-to-day life and.
I knew from the beginning that my husband wanted children and wanted to get started immediately. Not only did I have the pressure of family and friends asking about children, or the negative opinions that came regarding starting a family, but secretly my husband resented my decision to wait.
But more and more the conversation took on a more serious tone. And eventually, I knew I would not be able to avoid the conversation any longer.
My husband started to resent our marriage while I was running away from it. Soon we would decide to separate. I found an apartment and was preparing to move out. Over the next year, I would go above and beyond and so would my husband.
We still had our issues to work out, but both of us practiced patience and I gave a little more than we did before. I decided to let the little things go and became more mature in the process.
As I became more understanding of what his needs were and he of mine, we would still agree to hold off on children and put more into us and then revisit the conversation. Soon I would become pregnant, but we still had some things to work on. I was nervous to say the least, but more excited for my journey into motherhood. We were pregnant with our first child.
A boy that we loved from the moment I found I was pregnant. He was unapologetically caring and comforting in every step of the way. If you're not getting something from your partner -- why doesn't dad take the baby from me the moment he gets home from work?
It takes a lot of strength to explain your feelings and outline what you need. That strength will only help your relationship in the long run. If your partner comes to you with a problem, listen, don't try and solve that problem. It's important to hear what your partner is saying and be supportive. For example, if your wife is frazzled because the baby has been crying all day, don't launch into solutions she could have used to stop the baby from crying.
Can A Baby Save A Relationship?
Simply understand where she's coming from. Reserve advice for when she asks for help. Lack of sleep and fatigue are some of the biggest challenges during the first few months, and that can be a big strain.
Parents need to help one another and find a sleep schedule that works for both of them. The solution will be unique to every couple. In order to be your best for one another, you have to take care of yourself.
Does Having a Baby Strengthen Your Relationship?
Whether that means a game of golf with the guys or dinner with the girls, it's important that each parent has some time set aside each week to do the things they love. Parents should discuss plans ahead of time so that one can be home and allow the other to go out without worry.
Your relationship with one another is also a top priority. Wider relationships The birth of a baby may bring some relationships with friends and family closer than you expect, and others may become more distant or challenging.
Many parents find friends and family will offer advice and opinions — sometimes unasked for and sometimes in conflict with your own parenting ideas.
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For many parents the support that may be offered by grandparents, other relations, friends and even neighbours can be invaluable. Time together and for yourself Looking after yourselves as a couple and as individuals is important.
It may be simplistic but if you are happy you are more likely to be happy in your role as a parent too. Make time for yourselves as a couple — maybe try to fit or adapt some of the things you used to enjoy together into your new life, such as watching a DVD or having a takeaway. Take some time out with friends or on your own, doing something you enjoy or find relaxing.
Does Having a Baby Strengthen Your Relationship?
It will be a learning curve in the first few weeks and months, but with the right support, you can work it out together. Further information Our support line offers practical and emotional support in all areas of pregnancy, birth and early parenthood: You might find attending one of NCT's Early Days groups helpful as they give you the opportunity to explore different approaches to important parenting issues with a qualified group leader and other new parents in your area.
Make friends with other parents-to-be and new parents in your local area for support and friendship by seeing what NCT activities are happening nearby. Relate, a charity which specialises in supporting relationships, has information on coping with a new baby.