expert, live musicians play under a silken, clarion voice caressing warm lyrics about love and relationships without irony or dismissal. Don't Give Up On Me. But, not every big ballad gives good advice when it comes to A relationship expert dissects lyrics by Adele, Taylor Swift and Lionel Richie Fair enough, let's take a look next at the pivotal song from a popular romantic. I love it, I hate it, and I can't take it. But I keep on coming back to you [Verse 2: Louis Tomlinson] I know my friends, they give me bad advice.
Your relationship is strong enough to withstand almost anything if you let it.
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Instead of constantly questioning their feelings for you or the circumstances, trust that your relationship will sustain itself, and have a little more faith in your partner- it will reduce some of that paranoia.
James Bay Pick your battles. If it feels like you are fighting all the time over stupid things — it is probably because you are! You know what I mean. Stop looking for something to be upset about! Make an agreement to treat each other better. For example, my boyfriend Ben and I have agreed not to curse at each other because no good will ever come of that. But if there were, this would be number one: If you learn one thing from this article, let it be that if you want someone to be honest with you, you have to be approachable.
If they feel like they are causing more harm than good, obviously your partner will leave you in the dark. Act reasonably, and try to address the situation with an open mind. Meghan Trainer We all know this person. Enjoy the different stages of your relationship. For me this one really hits home, because my boyfriend is a Marine, so all the time we spend together I really must value, because when he gets deployed, there are no guarantees that he will be back in my arms.
It sounds cliche but live in the moment, and enjoy being young and in love. Truth be told, your partner will take your relationship to the next level when they are ready. Cole In a relationship, your job is to love and support them, not fix, change, or control them. Know your role, and check out your love language.
Other emotions complicate the situation. For example if I help you and expect you to be grateful, then my feelings of expectation will give me the impression that I have earned a certain amount of social capital, and that my bucket is a little fuller as yours is a little emptier.
Yet if you are not that grateful, you will not think you owe me that much.
In fact if you did not need or want my help then you may think you owe me nothing. And if you see my help as an intrusion or an attempted 'robbery' in forcing me to owe you in return then your feelings of resentment will tip the balance the other way as you believe I owe you some reparation for the wrong done. In this way positive and negative emotions have opposite effects on the social capital bucket, and the stronger the emotion, the bigger the effect.
If you hurt me in any way, then you owe me.
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If you help me then I owe you. Love and hate are enduring emotions that have a big effect on give and take.
If I love you then I will give much. Even if you do little in return, I will feel good for having helped you and hence effectively reward myself with good feelings rather than expect things from you.
The extreme form of this is unconditional love which, as the name suggests, expects nothing in return. Love can also complicate the bucket when it leads to lower expected reciprocity. My expressions of love for you may make you feel that I expect little. This can cause resentment and anger that results in recriminations that erode the love, effectively 'killing the golden goose'.
Hate is often based in the belief that the other person owes a great deal, which justifies attacks that take much from them. When others refuse to repay what we believe they owe us then our emotions become negative and hence motivate harmful action.
Just as unconditional love does not consider what is given, blind hate is not concerned with what is taken. Both can upset the bucket and confuse the social capital account, though each is likely to beget itself. Love very largely creates love and hate mostly creates hate.
Love results in much reciprocal giving while hate leads to battles of blow-by-blow taking. The wider effect While give and take is important in individual relationships, its broader power is in the creation of society.
Give and Take
As relationships deepen and trust increases, we may take from one person and give to another. For example a person in a happy relationship will be kind to others, effectively sharing the social capital gained from their relationship partner.
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This is helped by the fact that emotional exchange is often unconscious. When I help you, I may not realize the value I provide and so do not expect much in return. This gives you the scope to help others without emptying the bucket. The overspill thus created keeps society afloat in a sea of social capital. Social capital can be gained indirectly when others see you helping people and doing good things. When they appreciate your actions in conforming with social norms, their approval effectively acts as putting a few social credits into your bucket.
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Politicians know that they can make huge gains from widespread public approval, so they seek to champion popular causes and otherwise appear 'good'. Within this social system there will be net takers and givers: Givers may be unwilling, feeling as the downtrodden poor. They may also be those who have a seemingly deep well and who pay themselves internally, feeling good just for helping rather than needing material repayment from others.
It is this intrinsic system that gives society its net positive social capital and which allows us to live together in large groups. Laws often result from failures of people and society to maintain a balance of give and take. They remind us to give and they take from takers with material and physical punishment.
Laws protect the vulnerable from those who would take advantage. They also redistribute wealth from those who have taken more than others. To gain social capital remember that you need to gain gratitude or appreciation.