What I Learned When I Dated a Deaf Man | HuffPost
I grew up in a Deaf family, and since I was young, I've met deaf people who are in relationships with other deaf people, and deaf people who. And somehow that part."She's hearing" was the kicker. I didn't get it back then. I didn't know that it's a fairly rare occurrence for deaf-hearing relationships to. Deafness in relationships. I posted the question to 3 Facebook groups on whether deaf-hearing relationships can work & the responses were.
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I enjoyed being in the deaf community, I adored his family and friends so much and I felt like I was not only leaving him, but them as well. What a guilt trip. Eventually, I ended things because I just couldn't be in a relationship with someone whom I did not love or have any kind of connection with, aside from friendship.
At the end of my 23rd year, I needed to start thinking about my future, and I knew it wasn't with him -- but it took a lot for me to woman-up and make the transition.
Today, only one member of his family and friends still speaks with me, understandably so. On the premiere evening of the new Furious 7 movie, I was in line with my boyfriend's daughter and we were finishing our order.
I looked to my left and there was a deaf family trying to order. I watched from the corner of my eye. I wanted to see if I still remembered ASL nearly a year after being completely out of the deaf community. I quickly realized that the young lady behind the counter was struggling with understanding their needs, so after I completed our order, I tapped on the deaf woman's shoulder and asked, in ASL, if they needed help.
She thanked me for offering and allowed me to interpret her order to the cashier. It felt so good to not only help someone, but use something that I spent a lot of time and effort learning for a good two years of my young adult life. All of them either for, by, and of the Deaf or at the very least interpreted.
My life hasn't shrunk, its grown. I had to learn to share more - who that was on the phone, what I just said to him, what she just said to me, stuff I hear on the radio, news or whatever I am pretty sure he won't "overhear". He only has to flick his eyes away and I'm cut off. My biggest bone of contention.Hearing Deaf Relationship Tips
A hearing man can pretend he's listening to his wife. There is no way my husband can fake it unless he is looking right in my eyes. We've had a few blowouts about that. He claims he's not ignoring me. I say he is. I don't think its a Deaf thing but a man thing. It's just that the deafness compounds this age-old argument between women and men. Oh well, I'll just keep stamping my feet, flapping my hands, waving my arms, and flicking the lights to get his attention!
As a last resort, I walk over and take his chin to get his attention.
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I tell him one of these days I am going to be trying to warn him that a Mac truck is bearing down on him and then that'll be it. My mom loved him and liked to hear " She'd ask me, "So what did my son-in-law do today?
You won't believe what he did! Twice I've locked myself out of the house.
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I didn't have the "door knock" set up lights flash when you knock on the front door. Once he noticed the cats' ears flicker and figured it out and the second time I had to go to the neighbor's and call the relay service to call him on the TTY TDD that I was standing outside banging on the doors and windows.
Another time, he locked the screen door while in the backyard. I had been throwing like a girl plastic soda bottles from the recycle bin at him for five minutes, when he noticed the dog who thought I was playing with her was racing around the yard with a bottle in her mouth.
He looked at me with a sheepish grin. I was like, "What's the matter with you, you Deaf or something?! In the mornings I can't see without my glasses or contacts. I say, "I'm blind, you Deaf" and I laugh. When he uses his voice and my back is turned, I have to keep pointing at my ear to let him know even though we don't have eye contact I can hear him. He can speak, but his speech or intent is not always clear.
Took me years to be able to understand him without having to lipread him. I taught him "What's your point? It takes longer, there's more discussion, more of a desire for "group consensus".
Every week, I swear I learn a new sign or marvel at the way a Deaf person expresses a thought so beautifully. People ask, "Well, how long have you been learning sign? Really folks, its not like we are from two different hemispheres. I grew up in this country.
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I laughed at "Seinfeld" and watch the reruns over and overI think "Frasier" is one of the cleverest sitcoms on TV, and yes I watch "Friends" too. I love the color of my skin, the texture of my hair, and how I look could stand to lose a few pounds now, though. I like some rap not all and I like some rock and roll not all. So far I haven't cooked my husband anything strange, exotic, and unrecognizable.
Good honest, clear communication is the key to any successful relationship. Best deaf-hearing relationship tips Yes, people are different, and you might prefer to be in a relationship with a person that shares your level of hearing capabilities. However, if you are in a deaf-hearing relationship or are open to the idea, then read some of the best tips provided by couples that are making it work.
One of the best tips I read was that for a deaf-hearing relationship to work you need to have micro-dates, where you can discuss communication strategies. It reminds Gianluca that I care so much!
Every relationship is different. As long as you are in a healthy relationship with mutual respect and a partner with the patience of a saint, hearing-deaf relationships can work.